By Dr. Don Dunlap
Pastoral Counselor
Are you “running out of gas” in your efforts to lead family devotions? Set simpler goals.
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Have you repeatedly begun a family devotion time, only to
find that within two or three months the plan has fallen by the wayside? This
is a common occurrence, which usually happens when parents set unrealistic
goals for family worship. In the 5th article of a 20 part series,
Dr. Dunlap explains that it is better to consistently meet together to worship
as a family than to be defeated because you don’t meet every day.
Henry and Jan, parents of four young children, told me
they had tried repeatedly to begin a consistent family worship plan. They would
make a commitment to each other and to the Lord to get up an hour earlier, six
days a week, and prepare a worship service and Bible study for the entire
family to participate in. Dejectedly, Jim reported to me, “We always seem to
last for about four or five weeks, and then something comes up to disrupt our
schedule for a few days and we drop the routine altogether.”
Do your family devotions get off to a great start and trickle
off to nothing after a few weeks?
Does this sound familiar? God intends for Christian
parents to daily entrust to their children, the truths of His Word. We find
detailed instructions for this process in Proverbs 22:17-19:
Pay attention and listen to the sayings of the wise; apply
your heart to what I teach, for it is pleasing when you keep them in your heart
and have all of them ready on your lips. So that your trust may be in the Lord,
I teach you today, even you.
God has a reason for commanding fathers (and mothers, as
helpers and facilitators) to lead their families to pursue biblical truths and
apply them to their lives—so that their trust may be in the Lord.
Every teaching effort should be motivated by Christ’s love.
We find principles in God’s Word that serve as a guide for
men who desire to develop a teaching ministry in their wives’ and children’s
lives. The writer of 1 Corinthians 16:13,14 exhorts men, “Be on your guard;
stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong. Do everything in love.”
Women who find themselves in the position of family devotions leader ought to
be encouraged by this exhortation found in Proverbs 31:
She opens her mouth in wisdom and the teaching of kindness
is on her tongue…charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears
the Lord shall be praised.
Teaching children to fear God is a noble calling on every
mother’s life.
Don’t set unrealistic goals or you will “run out of steam.”
It is pointless for someone to demand respect based upon
his or her God-given position of authority. People do not respect others out of
obligation or duty. Christian parents must earn the right to be heard and
respected by their families. They cannot demand respect.
Developing a teaching ministry with our families is a
progressive process. We read this reminder in Ecclesiastes 3:1, “There is a
time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.” Parents
must not expect to implement a workable family devotional plan overnight. A
regular, meaningful family worship routine grows gradually, over time.
Dr. Don
Dunlap, a pioneer in the placement of Pastoral Counselors in the offices of
Christian physicians, has conducted over twenty thousand appointments during
his ministerial career. His counseling practice includes adults, children and
families in crisis. Dr. Dunlap is committed to facilitating a network of
telephone counselors. His goal is to provide help for the many people unable to
meet face to face with a competent Bible-based counselor. For a complete
library of Dr. Dunlap’s articles, indexed by topic, go to Family Counseling Ministries. You
may also make an appointment for personal telephone counseling by clicking on Family Counseling Ministries.
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